We started Coached 2 Love with the goal of building stronger families. We have identified a simple remedy for most of our global issues, which is the inappropriate definition or application of love, starting with self. Therefore, we believe that as we help others identify what love looks like, then help those persons convert the definition into practical steps, we will begin to see positive changes.
Our second focus involves helping people make better choices regarding the person they will date to marry. Notice the focal point of the latter goal: marriages. Unfortunately, we have encountered too many couples that shared a wedding goal, but had no idea of what to look forward to after their special day. The consequence of the narrow vision is a unmentionable epidemic of broken families.
One of our practical steps in helping others look through the wedding event into marriage is providing a list of thought provoking questions. Below we have provided a sample from our self directed questionnaire, which we believe individuals and couples should engage, before they even ask or answer (B.Y.E.A.) the wedding proposal. We do not consider our questionnaire to be an exhaustive list. However, we hope our complete list will motivate couples to go off the track and ask even more involved questions, of themselves and the parties involved in the relationship that would have otherwise been overlooked.
Let’s begin the journey.
1. What are your views of God?
2. What is the meaning of a wedding vow?
3. What are your views on sex, in particular, the various forms of sexual contact?
4. What has been your greatest accomplishment to date?
5. What are your views on children, baring, having and rearing?
6. What is your relationship with your parents?
7. What is the role of a husband?
8. What is the role of a wife?
9. Share details of your family’s history, lineage, or genealogy.
10. What are your greatest fears?
11. Provide an example of when you were knocked down in life and how you got back on your feet.
12. How do you define intimacy?
13. When was your last physical exam, and what were the results?
14. What parts of your life have you held in reserve for your spouse?
15. Share your views on drinking alcohol, smoking (cigarettes or cigars), and drug use.
16. How would you approach your spouse if they were failing your expectations?
17. How do you best communicate (verbally, writing, dropping hints, physical expression, etc.)?
18. What are your views on homosexuality?
19. How do you handle frustration?
20. Whose counsel do you most value?
21. How important is personal space or time alone or time away from your spouse?
22. How do you define cheating?
23. What are the boundaries for your parents’ involvement in your relationship?
24. What allowances are you willing to give to your spouse to express a different religious belief or practice?
25. How do you define success?