Even before I had it I did not understand the concept of goodbye sex. (Divorce Journal – Goodbye Sex)  I mean I tried it once in high school, but it was an act of revenge on a cheating girlfriend.  I assumed that goodbye sex was some sort of parting gift to each other, not a malicious act to declare the end of a relationship.  But, I struggle with understanding the purpose of sharing in intimacy with someone you no longer want to be in a relationship with.

In some regard, I can understand the partner that is requesting one last moment of itimacy before the door closes on a relationship forever.  Forever is a long time.  It stands to reason that the emotions involved in this final act will run high; therefore, making the love making experience that much more special.  But, what about the negative consequences?  For instance, I have come to understand that sexual intercourse is deeper than penetrating flesh.  Souls are intertwined as a result of the connection.  What are these parties to do with this connection once the relationship has dissolved?

The dissenting partner has th greatest challenge.  It would be cold and malicious to deny your partner the opportunity to spend  few last and lasting passionate moments together.  It is certainly not like this would be the first time the couple had shared in intimacy.  But the consequences on the partner that wants out may be greater.  The physical, emotional and spiritual connection maybe to involved for the other person to simply walk away.

Whoever decided that it would be a good idea to lay with your partner on the way out needs to provide clarity on what exactly is the goal.  From limited personal experience, it only seems to make matters worse.